Nana and her Siblings

A few weeks ago, I saw on Facebook that we were celebrating National Siblings Day. It made me think about Nana and her four siblings - Elizabeth, Grace, John and Ben. Sadly, Nana and her brother Ben are the only surviving siblings. 

The Tilburg Siblings 1940's 

Nana's oldest sibling was her sister Elizabeth. I don't remember anyone ever calling her Elizabeth. Nana called her Lib. I called her Auntie. Although Lib was 13 years older than Nana, they were always close. Growing up at the Staggert Place, I remember Auntie and her husband Luther visiting often. Auntie and Uncle Lukie (as we called Luther) never had any children, but they made all their nieces and nephews feel special. Sharon and I spent many summer and Christmas vacations visiting Auntie's spotless house on Fifth Street in Hughesville. After Uncle Lukie died in 1980, Nana and Auntie spent more time together. Sunday's tradition was to meet in Hughesville for lunch at a local restaurant after both attended their own church. When Auntie died in 1988, it left a big hole in our lives, but for Nana it was especially sad. I know she still misses her.

Nana and Lib 1982

Grace was Nana's other older sister. She was married to Tom and they lived in South Williamsport in a tiny house that Uncle Tom built. The house was perched on the edge of busy Route 15. In 1966, during the summer before my senior year of high school, I spent weekdays staying with Aunt Grace and Uncle Tom while working at Little League Baseball. I stayed in the cozy little bedroom previously occupied by their son Jack, who by then was married and had his own family. Aunt Grace was always kind to me and Uncle Tom was fun. After Uncle Tom died of cancer in 1972, for years Aunt Grace struggled and gradually, Auntie and Nana realized Aunt Grace was not like herself. Eventually Aunt Grace was diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease. Jack made the difficult decision to place her in a nursing home for her own safety. She spent her remaining years confined in a nursing home until she died in 1994. Even though there were times Aunt Grace didn't know who she was, Nana made regular visits to see her. Nana's loyalty to her sister, even in those difficult circumstances, shows Nana's compassion and her character. I admire her so much for what she did for Aunt Grace.

Uncle Tom and Aunt Grace and Jack (Unknown Date)

Nana's oldest brother was John. Uncle John was 3 years older than Nana and her stories about going to Pike's Peak School always involved her and Uncle John wading through the snow banks to get to school. I think the closeness Nana shared with Uncle John was a bond made stronger during World War II.  I've seen pictures of John and Nana with him in uniform. During our childhood, Sharon and I often visited Uncle John and his wife Aunt Dorothy. We enjoyed spending time there with their two daughters, Grace and Gloria, who were our ages. Through the years, Nana never stopped calling herself John's little sister. Even when Uncle John was in his last days in hospice care, Nana took his hand and said, " John, it's your little sister Deanie." I know he heard her. Uncle John passed in May 2012.

Uncle John and Nana WWII

Ben is Nana's youngest sibling. Born in 1930, he's 7 years younger than Nana. Because Uncle Ben stayed behind to help care for Nana's bed-ridden mother, he never left the family home. After my grandmother passed, he worked on a farm owned by one of our relatives. The years of physically hard labor have taken a toll on his health, especially his knees. With limited mobility for both Nana and Uncle Ben, it's hard for them to visit. With hearing issues, even talking on the phone is a challenge. In the past, I've taken Nana to see Uncle Ben and recently Bill brought Uncle Ben to see Nana. She was so happy to see her little brother.

Uncle Ben December 2013

When Nana was growing up, they didn't have Facebook or National Siblings Day. They didn't need it. Everyday was Siblings Day. 

The Tilburg Siblings 1983

Nana: The Girl on the Train - World War II Style

Nana surprised me during my last visit. We were walking through Dollar General and suddenly she asked, "What's this I keep hearing about The Girl on the Train?"
 I said, "Well, it's a book - a thriller actually, about a girl, a train, and a murder. It's also been made into a movie. Why?"
"Well, I was a girl on a train."
"Yes, yes you sure were!" I chuckled to myself, thinking how different Nana was as a girl on a train than Rachel, the character in the book and the movie. I've read the book and I've seen the movie and the train is the only similarity.
While Nana was still writing stories, This is what she wrote about her trip to Austin, Texas on the train:

"I left Williamsport on the Pennsylvania Railroad bound for Austin, Texas with $30 in my pocket.  World War II was in full swing.  I changed trains in St. Louis and boarded the Katy lines.  In the seat across from me were two nice Southern girls.  They said, “Are y’all going plum to Tulsa?”  Not knowing Southern talk, I asked, “Does that mean all the way?”  They answered, “Yes.” 

The train was slow-moving and, while gazing out the window, I saw blue bonnets.  After three days and nights, I arrived in Austin.  I got a room at a boarding house on 1205 Nueces Street.  The landlady, whose name was Mabel Huckabee, was very nice.  She later got me a job at Steck Publishing Company.  I liked Austin, Texas a lot."

Written by Deanie Rhone, April 27, 2011 

Nana was 19 years old at the time of her train trip. Her first time out of Pennsylvania. I can't imagine the courage it took for her to ride that train, all alone with only $30. Although not in the above story, Nana has told us she had to stay overnight in Oklahoma before taking her final train to Austin. Thanks to a kind employee at the train station, she didn't have to spend the night alone in the station. He got her a place to stay and made sure she got on the train in the morning to finish her journey to Austin. That last leg is when she saw the Texas Blue Bonnets that became her favorite flower then and remains so today.

Nana: The Girl on the Train. Her story might not be a bestselling book or a blockbuster movie, but Nana was no less brave than the fictional Rachel. Her real-life drama played out in war time with no clue how her story would end. But, lucky for us, Nana was the girl on the train whose story lives on in her even today.  

Nana in Austin, Texas 1943

 

Nana Turns 93

September 15, 2016. Nana's 93rd birthday. A year before, when she celebrated her 92nd birthday, she was in The Meadows Assisted Living and two weeks from being discharged to go back to living alone in her apartment. Last birthday, it had been over five months since the terrible fall that sent her to the hospital, nursing home and assisted living. A betting person would've never imagined Nana could go home again. But, then, one should never bet against Nana.

It's been a roller coaster year. One that saw a few more falls - no more broken bones thankfully. But the fall in May this year put her in the hospital/nursing home for over a month. (See my blog post from June 2016.) I'll never forget the social worker looking for a vacancy in a nursing home, while Sharon and Cindy, her caregiver, and I fought to get Nana back into her cozy apartment. When she finally got released to go home, she was so weak. But who wouldn't be? Nana was only out of bed for about an hour a day for therapy.

Could she be on her own again? I admit, I wasn't sure. But, what I was sure about was, more than anything, I wanted her to be home. And Sharon wanted her home and Cindy wanted her home and her caring neighbors at Houston Ridge wanted her home. Most of all, Nana wanted to be home. And when Nana wants something, she's determined to get it.

Slowly she got stronger. Stronger with Sharon's frequent visits, regular pill preparation and lots of KFC meals. Stronger with Cindy's daily help with pills and meals and baths and hair setting. Stronger with my monthly visits of four days of TLC. Stronger with deviled eggs delivery from Wayne and Sharon and occasional Sunday meal deliveries from Bill and Marcia. Stronger with the "juice boxes" regularly ordered by Lori.   

I remember in the summer when she wanted to go, by herself, to the gazebo in Houston Ridge to sit with her neighbors and visit. "Out of the question," I thought to myself. "She's not strong enough to do that."  How would she get out the door by herself with her downstairs walker? How would she walk there without taking a rest?  How would she sit on a bench or chair without a cushion?

To my surprise, Nana figured it out. She got out the door by herself. She pushed herself to walk the distance, stopping when she needed to rest. Her kind neighbors lent her cushions and gave her the most comfortable chair. And when she was ready to go back to her apartment, Chuck or John or Bud or any other neighbor there walked her back and helped her in the door. And everyday she walked there, she got stronger from the exercise and happier from the good company.

September 15, 2016. Nana's 93rd birthday. Lots of reasons to celebrate. Nana's home and she's stronger than she's been in a long time. She seems happy most of the time, especially when she gets to go to Wendy's. Most important, she's surrounded by all of us who love and cherish her as we look forward to celebrating her 94th birthday next September.

Nana 93rd Birthday September 2016

Nana in Gazebo Summer 2016

 

Summertime and Strawberry Jam

During my last visit to Nana, I watched her dunk her toast, overflowing with strawberry jam, into her morning cup of coffee. Nowadays, it's Stroehman's white bread and Smucker's Seedless Strawbery Jam. But, my memories of Nana's bread and jam are thick slices of her home-baked bread topped with her homemade strawberry jam. 

With a quartet of hungry kids, Nana's bread and jelly were a staple in our house growing up. Each summer during strawberry season, Nana made a batch of strawberry jam from the succulent fresh berries. She followed the recipe on the SureJell box and produced a sugar crazed delicacy that springs to mind even now. The chunks of strawberries swam in a shiny jell that turned a plain piece of bread into a delectable dessert.

More than likely, the strawberries came from Anstadt's strawberry fields in Allenwood. And, also more than likely, Sharon had picked them. Each strawberry season, Sharon worked at Anstadt's picking strawberries to earn extra money. She was their star employee. Sharon could - and still can - pick strawberries faster than anyone I know. Even though she was only paid pennies per box, Sharon managed to make money. (I tried it several times, but I'm slow, can't handle the sun, and the bugs devour me.) Even today, when I see the "Pick Your Own Strawberries" signs, I think of Sharon.

Before the strawberry season ended, square quart containers of sugar-sweetened berries parked in our upright freezer for more batches of jam in the winter. 

During the years when Nana made her own homemade bread, I'd fight to get the end crust. Brown and crispy on the outside and fluffy and warm on the inside, the crust was the perfect foundation for my butter and jam treat. 

I remember one day, I watched Nana dunk her bread into her coffee. 

"Mommy, can I dunk my bread and jam in your coffee?"

She slid her cracked ceramic cup of coffee - blonde with milk - to my place at the table. I immediately fell in love with the taste of the soggy bread soaked in the slightly bitter coffee, the layer of strawberry jam sweetening the concoction. I wasn't tempted to drink the coffee - just dunk in it. When I was finished, Nana - never one to waste anything - gulped the rest of the coffee with the bits of my strawberry jam swimming in the cup. 

In my adult life, I took over the task of making the Strawberry Jam. I wanted to make sure I did everything the way Nana did. For many years, Nana came to my house during strawberry season and helped me make my fresh batch of jam and helped me prepare the strawberries for the freezer. During the winter, whenever I needed another batch, she supervised and helped stir in the sugar - a critical part of the process. Sadly, after she was diagnosed with diverticulosis, she wasn't allowed to eat the jam because the tiny strawberry seeds could get caught in her colon and cause diverticulitis, an acutely painful ailment. But, that didn't stop her from helping me and watching everyone delight in eating her jam.

As the years passed, SureJell changed their recipe but Nana wouldn't settle for anything but the original. Nana's tattered original recipe from the SureJell box became a priceless gem.   

To preserve the exact recipe for Nana's Strawberry Jam, I took the original SureJell recipe and added Nana's special touches. Now, anyone can make the recipe -  even if someone has to use "store-bought" strawberries. 

This Strawberry Jam Recipe is truly a family heirloom. 

Thank You Nana!

MOM RHONE’S STRAWBERRY JAM RECIPE

Strawberries for jam:

If doing own berries when in season to freeze for jam to be made later:

            Cut in small pieces, sugar lightly and let set until they draw juice.

            Measure 3 cups per container and freeze.

If using “store-bought” frozen strawberries:

            Thaw and crush berries.

To make FULL batch of jam:

            Thaw 6 cups of strawberries(2-3 cup containers of home-frozen berries.)

            Pre-measure 6 cups of sugar

.           Heat the 6 cups berries until boiling, then add 1 box Sure Jell.

            When it comes to FULL boil, boil ONE minute.

            Then add 6 cups of pre-measured sugar

            Keep stirring so sugar does not burn.

            When it comes to a FULL ROLLING BOIL, boil for ONE minute +.

            Remove from burner and put in jars.

            Cool completely before putting lids on jars.

            Keep in refrigerator until used.

To make HALF batch of jam:

            First empty 1 box of Sure Jell into a container and mix well.

            Then measure ½ box of Sure Jell and return ½ to package.

            Follow above instructions except use 3 cups of strawberries,

            ½ box Sure Jell and 3 cups of sugar.

To make FULL batch with FRESH strawberries:

            Clean berries and crush 5 cups of strawberries (DO NOT ADD SUGAR.)

            Same cooking instructions as above except use 7 cups of sugar.

            IMPORTANT NOTE:  Different measurements of sugar and berries for fresh batch

By Diane Rhone

                                Nana with her Smucker's Strawberry Jam
                                 (Thanks to Sharon for taking this picture)